Sacred Spaces

We need sacred space in our lives. It doesn't matter how big or robust the space, it needs to be home. We need the sacred space to REMIND us that we ARE in control, to some degree, of our surroundings. 

It needs to be nurturing and hold us in just the right way. Sacred space is a source of support for the Woman Warrior that is undeniably essential to warrior status. 

I have a few spaces in my life that I come to for unwinding and releasing. Because of how I have set these PHYSICAL spaces up, I feel safe and clear and calm in them. They are NO KID ZONES in my home. 

There are three: 
1. My Bedroom (I will share in a moment, hang tight)
2. My Home Office
3. My Bathroom 

I need three spaces because my cancerian roots need to feel home wherever I land. I will go through the peices that make each of the above work for me. 

My Bedroom 
I have had a pillow since I was three, her name is Maggie. She has been to Europe and Israel and many summer camp seasons. She saw pregnancies and heartbreaks and illnesses and fevers and temper tantrums. She needs the BEST of space to be happy (not kidding ladies). 

My oasis. My happy place. Where I come to cry, rest, recharge, heal, love and sleep. Cool colors, the best comforter, lots of pillows, no mess, the bed is always made. A lovely diffuser with oils that support rest and sleep and dreams. 

Photos of things and people and places that fill my soul and create ease from my nose to my toes when I study them. The nicest TV in the house because this Mama loves bed lovin movies. Clothes that are organized and folded and tucked away just so; and ONLY what I love. Otherwise, out it goes. Immediately. I have NO space for things in my life that I don't love. 

I have an alter in my bedroom that I place, gently, all of the little things that remind me of who I am, what I love and what I choose. A photo here, a stone here, a feather here, a love letter here. It is in front of this small, low, wood table that I sit and stretch and write and create. It is an alter of connection to ME, connection to my base. Nobody in my home touches it or uses it but me. It is SACRED GROUND. I BEG OF YOU Sister, create an alter space for yourself. Hit me up if you need inspiration. 

Bedroom Oily Diffuser Love: 
5 drops RutVuLa  
5 drops Lavender  
5 drops Valor

My Home Office
Yep, I have a space in my home with all of my creative pieces. A great desk, all of the books that I love, none that I don't love. A lovely display of oils and resources for all things Young Living. A computer that is fast and strong, and protected with an EMF protector. 

Photos of people who inspire me. Snacks (some hidden). A HUGE white board for my mind to play and explore. A file cabinet with only imperative keeps. I keep a yellow legal pad to my right and my Franklin Covey to my left, because if this mama doesn't write it, it doesn't get done. 

Home Office Oily Diffuser Love: 
5 drops Citrus Fresh
5 drops Thieves
5 drops Valor

My Bathroom 
I want to walk in to my bathroom and take it off and TAKE IT OFF. The stress, get that SHIT OFF Sister. I want to unwind and let go. 

I am not a make up / fuss with it kind of girl. I love good stuff, good products, things that REALLY support my skin, my GIRLS, my organs, my hair, etc. 

I love choices and I have a lot of them. My shower has a few shampoos and a few conditioners that are non toxic, gluten free and smell like where heaven and lavender feilds meet. I have a few choices of bar soap that I would be willing to eat, its that clean. 

My bathtub has a buffet of bubble options and soaps and nail supplies and shaving options. Great candles with non toxic release. A photo of beautiful, round women relaxing hanging above my tub. 

I only keep makeup I will use. I have a display of oil based perfumes that I have collected over the years, set up like a museum shelf. Lovely. Everything else is neatly tucked away in cabinets and drawers. 

Bathroom Oily Diffuser Love: 
5 drops Lavender
5 drops En R Gee

My Chiropractic Office
I remember being new in practice and visiting an OLD TIMER in my craft and feeling like his office was a dugeon that was going to swallow me up and spit me out. It was stale and musty and literally in a basement. I couldn't wait to leave, it left an impression that will be there forever. I remember committing on that day, when I booked out of there, that I would go home and create the exact opposite SPACE for my tribe. 

I have spent many many years perfecting my space at LightSource. My practice is a living entity; she has emotion and charge and intuition and clarity. She has learned to YEILD TO THE TIMES, especially these days. She has had years of being FULL OF TOYS and SNACKS and MUSIC, and these days she is simple and beautiful and intentional. 

Her sole purpose is to please the senses of her guests, and in some eras her guests need space and others they need hugs and embracing. Right now she is colorful and lovely and spacious. She smells like the pot of gold at the foot of a rainbow of safety and love. She has intentional snacks and mindfully selected sounds and droppings of chocolates in just the right spaces. 

Practice Space Diffuser Love: 
Set intentions with your diffusers. What do you want to create, where? 
At the entrance, if you want to promote relaxation, then diffuse relaxing oils there. 
Where you talk about business, if you want to promote concentration and trust, then diffuse supportive oils there. 
The sky is literally the limit, there are so many combinations that you can use to create the sacred space you need to in your practice space. 

My Tribe 
I am so blessed to get to serve the people who choose me. I take care of the strong, the real, the awakened, the healing. They come to me, to integrate their power, to be better, to be stronger. We have conversations InJOY about being real, never making excuses for your greatness, never dimming your light so that others may be more comfortable in their tight ass skin. 

There is a social acceptance in our neck of the woods; a secret agreement among its members that REAL CONNECTION is not safe. Let's just state right here: REAL CONNECTION = SACRED SPACE. A space that continuous exploration of friendship, listening, and undoubted, unbiased acceptance are all temporary facets of the social season as it sees fit. I don't know how to be in that season, and I don't know how to penetrate its illusion. I am not sure I want to know how. 

So, in spite of the bubble, I have created a safety zone in my little corner of the world. A corner that creates SPACE real, deep, unyielding connection. Anything goes, anything can be processed and there will be no judgement from any one here. 

Leaning In
When I learn a new system, procedure, belief, rule, process.....I go to it. I absorb it. I penetrate it until it becomes part of who I am. Part of my culture of JOY. Then it can come to me, unfold itself and truly be discovered. Creating sacred space took years to learn, to absorb. Now it is everywhere I am, and I am with it everywhere. 

Want to create SACRED SPACE for your body? (I know, right?)...hit me up, spend three days FREE with me in my ENERGY INTAKE CHALLENGE. You will LOVE it! Let's look at your ENERGY IN and ENERGY OUT picture, and FINALLY GET YOU the support that you need! 

Morning Routine!

Do you have a ritual for the mornings? Do you wake up and GET TO IT? Do you sit, sip, contemplate? Before the kids get up? Before the Partner gets up? Do you wake up and move, stretch, plan? 

For me, the early morning is the ONLY quiet time in the house. I literally roll out of bed, put the glasses on, get the coffee and start writing. I love quiet. I love when NO ONE is interrupting my thought process. 

I make sure that this SACRED TIME is happening for me, every day. OR...I LOSE IT. 

Once everyone starts to wake up around here, I get up and support the family. I have done SO MANY time management exercises, and I ALWAYS default to this morning ritual. Or, I LOSE IT. Got it? 

I went ahead and created a list of 10 things we need to do RIGHT NOW, to not lose it. To keep our shidigels together with the upcoming fall. 

Self care; nourish, nurture, optimize!

Self care is one of those things for so many women that goes on the back burner as soon as our plates fill up. We think to ourselves consistently, over and over, I will get to it....I will find the time ....but first I need to do this ....and I need to take care of that, and I need to serve this person and do for that person. 

The time is now that we need to put self care on the front line. 

I used to have an Assistant that would say if mama ain’t happy nobody happy. There was so much truth in those words. I don't think i really understood the magnitude of the statement until recently. Until I got lost with this, with self care, then they popped into my head like a lightbulb, and resonated so hard. 

Whether you are a mom, a sister , a daughter, a friend; self care is imperative to get through this time. 

So let’s look at what Self care loos like ! How do you nourish, nurture and optimize your physical emotional and spiritual body? 

What does nourishment look like for you? 

Does it look like picking foods and creams and oils and body-care that are high-quality, not complicated, only does your body good? Or does nourishment look like indulging in extravagant chocolate, a great class of organic wine, a cigarette now and again, or something else? 

And when we talk about nurturing, this is where people get more stuck. 

Somehow in our society we feel that we don’t deserve or have not earned time to nurture ourselves. We don’t rest, we keep going, we push and push and push, until we break. We don’t listen to the symptoms that our body gives us; to tell us that nurturing is essential

We mask our symptoms; mute them, cut them out, shut them off. 

All in the name to keep forging on to do what? 

Nurturing is essential. It’s essential to wellness and health and thriving. We all deserve to thrive. 

And then we take a look at the idea of optimizing our body. 

We think maybe one day, maybe someday, but not today. 

Today I have to do XYAnd z. Today doesn’t work for me, today is the day that I have to give to this person and that person. 

Today is not the day to optimize my body, and my body will not thrive. My body will stay stagnant. 

Delete! Delete all of that crazy shit that tells you that you don’t deserve to come first. Delete any excuse to not optimize your body, now! 

My favorite way to move towards body optimization is to pick one thing. One goal. And do it for 30 days. 

Every day no matter what-get it done. Get it accomplished. Remember that you can do anything you put your mind to. Here is a challenge I have created for the women of this community to explore body optimization. Have fun with it. 

So the point of this share is to spark a curiosity inside of you, to explore and dance with self-care. Because we need it, we deserve it. 

For me, my self care picture looks like weekly chiropractic adjustments, daily exercise, lots of water and great food, lots of stolen kisses with my honey, really good supplements, plenty of rest, a lot of essential oils, spending time with good friends, staying connected to my kids, keeping my kitchen clean, expressing my truth when it needs to be expressed, giving to my community, bubble baths, sacred space, and so much more. 

How about you? What does self care look like for you? Share with us. 

I am so proud of Reset90, my body optimization program. It is all about self care, self love, accountability, and keeping it real. Enjoy this video to learn more! 

We all get stuck, what the HECK are you going to do about it?

We all get stuck, we all have moments of confusion and moments where we feel like our map is all scrambled and we don’t know where to go right and where to go left. 

It’s normal. It’s OK.

It’s especially OK when things are overwhelming. Things are overwhelming right now. Recognize that and take time to kick your feet up and contemplate and decide where you want to go next. 

You create your map. You create the direction that you want to go in. 

We all need guidance and we all need support and thank God we have the ability to find the support that we need. 

Where is the support in your life right now? Who is guiding you? Who is leading you to the solutions that truly work for you? Do you have a coach? A spiritual guide? A friend who knows you more than anything who is willing to call you on your shit? 

It’s necessary, especially now, we need guidance. 

We need our map. 

Get out the map, put your finger on where you want to go. Create a plan to get there. Whether it’s optimizing your body, your mind, or your spirit, find the solutions. 

This is the time to do it. 

This is not time to be lazy, this is not time to dim your light, this is the time to shine as bright as you possibly can so that others around you can see the way. 

Trust me. I am connected. I am speaking to you through truth. I am speaking to you through higher self. 

This week we’re going to focus on how you do self-care. 

How do you take care of yourself when times are hardWhat is your back up plan when it gets tricky? 

The back up plan is everything. Because it always gets tricky. Right?

Getting out of overwhelm (or through it)

This is FOR SURE not the time to pretend that you've got it together, act as if everything’s OK, walk around with a smile, even if it is under a mask. 

CLICK HERE to get the best To Do List EVER! 

This is the time to look at your stuff, get your stuff in order, do the work, get organized, and know that you are doing the very best that you can to be in the world in this moment. 

This is the time, when your friend calls to see how you are, you put WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING down, and really share HOW YOU ARE. We need each other, we need to LEAN and LISTEN and SHARE. 

And...we need to clear. 

There are tools to support in getting organized, clearing your mind, brain dump and get a REAL PERSPECTIVE on what is swimming around up there. 

Last week we focused on organizing our time. Email me HERE to get my TIME challenge.

This week we are focusing on creating the best possible TO DO LIST you could ever imagine. This stuff really works. It is awesome. When you write a to do list that is truly affective something happens to those words on the page, and somehow your world opens up and gets a little bit bigger. 

To clear your mind in this way, with creativity and color and excitement, becomes a habitual tool that once you become used to it you can’t live without. 

It’s something that I do at least twice a week, it’s the only way I can move through the world as fast as I do and get as much done as I do I hope you really enjoy this experience.

Some people love typing; some people love writing; some people love storyboarding; some people love drawing. No matter what connection you feel most, I still want you to take a pen and a blank sheet of paper and do this assignment, like the boss that you are. This is a creative piece, and requires the written word. It doesn’t go as well if you do it on a computer. Or your phone. Take the pen take a piece of paper and go for it. 

CLICK HERE to get the BEST To Do List tool, ever! 

Oily Tools: 
The BEST oils to diffuse for this work is PRESENT TIME and PEACE AND CALMING

5 drops Present Time
5 drops Peace and Calming
Good water

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Loving you from here. Thanks for playing, 

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