There is a social acceptance in our neck of the woods; a secret agreement among its members that REAL CONNECTION is not safe. Let's just state right here: REAL CONNECTION = SACRED SPACE. A space that continuous exploration of friendship, listening, and undoubted, unbiased acceptance are all temporary facets of the social season as it sees fit. I don't know how to be in that season, and I don't know how to penetrate its illusion. I am not sure I want to know how.
When I learn a new system, procedure, belief, rule, process.....I go to it. I absorb it. I penetrate it until it becomes part of who I am. Part of my culture of JOY. Then it can come to me, unfold itself and truly be discovered. Creating sacred space took years to learn, to absorb. Now it is everywhere I am, and I am with it everywhere.
Self care is one of those things for so many women that goes on the back burner as soon as our plates fill up. We think to ourselves consistently, over and over, I will get to it....I will find the time ....but first I need to do this ....and I need to take care of that, and I need to serve this person and do for that person.
The time is now that we need to put self care on the front line.
I used to have an Assistant that would say if mama ain’t happy nobody happy. There was so much truth in those words. I don't think i really understood the magnitude of the statement until recently. Until I got lost with this, with self care, then they popped into my head like a lightbulb, and resonated so hard.
Whether you are a mom, a sister , a daughter, a friend; self care is imperative to get through this time.
So let’s look at what Self care loos like ! How do you nourish, nurture and optimize your physical emotional and spiritual body?
What does nourishment look like for you?
Does it look like picking foods and creams and oils and body-care that are high-quality, not complicated, only does your body good? Or does nourishment look like indulging in extravagant chocolate, a great class of organic wine, a cigarette now and again, or something else?
And when we talk about nurturing, this is where people get more stuck.
Somehow in our society we feel that we don’t deserve or have not earned time to nurture ourselves. We don’t rest, we keep going, we push and push and push, until we break. We don’t listen to the symptoms that our body gives us; to tell us that nurturing is essential.
We mask our symptoms; mute them, cut them out, shut them off.
All in the name to keep forging on to do what?
Nurturing is essential. It’s essential to wellness and health and thriving. We all deserve to thrive.
And then we take a look at the idea of optimizing our body.
We think maybe one day, maybe someday, but not today.
Today I have to do XYAnd z. Today doesn’t work for me, today is the day that I have to give to this person and that person.
Today is not the day to optimize my body, and my body will not thrive. My body will stay stagnant.
Delete! Delete all of that crazy shit that tells you that you don’t deserve to come first. Delete any excuse to not optimize your body, now!
My favorite way to move towards body optimization is to pick one thing. One goal. And do it for 30 days.
Every day no matter what-get it done. Get it accomplished. Remember that you can do anything you put your mind to. Here is a challenge I have created for the women of this community to explore body optimization. Have fun with it.
So the point of this share is to spark a curiosity inside of you, to explore and dance with self-care. Because we need it, we deserve it.
For me, my self care picture looks like weekly chiropractic adjustments, daily exercise, lots of water and great food, lots of stolen kisses with my honey, really good supplements, plenty of rest, a lot of essential oils, spending time with good friends, staying connected to my kids, keeping my kitchen clean, expressing my truth when it needs to be expressed, giving to my community, bubble baths, sacred space, and so much more.
How about you? What does self care look like for you? Share with us.
We all get stuck, we all have moments of confusion and moments where we feel like our map is all scrambled and we don’t know where to go right and where to go left.
It’s normal. It’s OK.
It’s especially OK when things are overwhelming. Things are overwhelming right now. Recognize that and take time to kick your feet up and contemplate and decide where you want to go next.
You create your map. You create the direction that you want to go in.
We all need guidance and we all need support and thank God we have the ability to find the support that we need.
Where is the support in your life right now? Who is guiding you? Who is leading you to the solutions that truly work for you? Do you have a coach? A spiritual guide? A friend who knows you more than anything who is willing to call you on your shit?
It’s necessary, especially now, we need guidance.
We need our map.
Get out the map, put your finger on where you want to go. Create a plan to get there. Whether it’s optimizing your body, your mind, or your spirit, find the solutions.
This is the time to do it.
This is not time to be lazy, this is not time to dim your light, this is the time to shine as bright as you possibly can so that others around you can see the way.
Trust me. I am connected. I am speaking to you through truth. I am speaking to you through higher self.
This week we’re going to focus on how you do self-care.
How do you take care of yourself when times are hardWhat is your back up plan when it gets tricky?
The back up plan is everything. Because it always gets tricky. Right?
Some people love typing; some people love writing; some people love storyboarding; some people love drawing. No matter what connection you feel most, I still want you to take a pen and a blank sheet of paper and do this assignment, like the boss that you are. This is a creative piece, and requires the written word. It doesn’t go as well if you do it on a computer. Or your phone. Take the pen take a piece of paper and go for it.