I TAKE BIG BITES.
When I learn a new system, procedure, belief, rule, process.....I go to it. I absorb it. I breathe it in and take it all... it until it becomes part of who I am.
I swallow things WHOLE, I don't take little bites, never have.
I used to think, on a very fundamental, deep level, that this was the WRONG way to be.
Too fast, too much, too intense.
Then, I grew up. I moved through my 30's. I fell in love with my unique ways, my gentle storms, my seeker's path.
I have committed my life to creating integration of joy and acceptance for the people I serve. Nothing lights me up more that watching the families I serve learn, grow and heal in a way that they never knew possible.
This BLOG entry is all about a few VERY simple tools that have carried me far. Dive in, take big bites, enjoy all of the flavor these words have to discover.
We live in a world where many of us feel we need to be at a breaking point to finally search for self care. It's like we need permission to stop and love on ourselves.
Many of us give and give and give, out of balance, out of exchange. We go hard, to the point of having nothing left, hitting a walk, getting stuck on a channel that we DON'T want to be on.
Well, let's change the channel, shall we?
Or at least have a conversation about changing it! Because the program is no longer working for us! It is toxic and holds no value for its audience.
It is time to start giving to the person in the mirror (the mirror in the bathroom when you are ALONE, not with kids crawling all over you).
BALANCE BASED GAME CHANGERS FOR THE BUSY,
COURAGEOUS SHAPE SHIFTER
1. TAKE THE TIME TO TAKE THE TIME
We HAVE to take time for ourselves, or we crash. We need quiet, still time to integrate and freshen the ideas swimming around in our brains. If we don't give TIME the focus that it deserves, we get to the end of our day and ask how it all went so fast. With no self care.
Growing up we had NAP TIME. Time to rest and renew, break in the middle of the day. Somehow most of us move away from this very important ritual because there is JUST TOO MUCH TO DO. However, what I find is that if I take the 20 minutes mid day, the rest of the day is so much smoother, less reactive and volatile.
Many of my mentors, who totally floor me with all they get accomplished, still use this very important mid day reset.
Besides a NAP, there are some super SIMPLE tools to implement around TIME:
One of the pieces that TOTALLY LIGHTS UP MY CLIENTS is to do a TIME STUDY, a true DOUBLE CLICK on how you are spending your time, and with INTENTION shapeshifting your schedule to be in alignment with your goals. Let me know if you want to spend some time with me looking at your TIME in this unique way.
Other simple tools to implement:
- Have a schedule. Schedule YOU time in. I know it sounds silly, but if you don't schedule it, it won't happen.
- Have an accountability buddy, outside the home, that has not motive but to see you be great. Share your calendar for the week with them. Check in at the end of the week and share your wins and challenges.
- Have a plan, a program to follow, to help you find the solutions you want to realize!
I am TOTALLY digging this book lately, all about wisely using time. It was suggested to me to partner up with someone who is interested in studying it with you.
2. FEEL IT ALL
For some reason, in our culture, we think that to be strong equates to being HAPPY AND JOYOUS. That when we feel sadness, or mourning, or loneliness there is a weakness to look at.
One of my MENTORS once shared that our true emotions only last 30 seconds, the rest is our story around them.
Emotions are energy in motion. That's it. Energy with flavor / attachment. But...if we don't process them they build up and make us sick.
Being EMOTIONAL is NOT a weakness. In my experience, calling my emotions a weakness will only lead me to self-sabotage. And frankly I am SO OVER self sabatoge...total waste of TIME!
Shit can get real!
Sometimes I connect so deeply with a sense of sadness that I feel like I am looking down a never ending well and if I look to close, I will fall in.
I don't always want to look. I don't want to know how deep the deepness goes. However, when I DO look, it is always tangible and I can always find my way back.
See it, go in, then get the hell out. That's it.
I will often use an essential oil, a yoga posture, a chant or just some straight up love based music to connect deeply with my feelings.
Feel it all.
Feel the good, the bad, the ugly.
Give yourself permission to REALLY GO THERE and embarrass the TRUTH of what you feel. Not what you are supposed to feel, or told to feel. What you TRULY feel. It won't last forever mama, I promise.
Use your tools. Grab your journal and get it going again. Create a collection box of memories and keep it close, open it up to connect with what you need to continue to heal.
3. CREATE SACRED SPACE
Home. The best. Where we unwind, integrate, process, love and rest. Sacred spaces make a house a home.
When I was little, like 10, I used to listen to Casey Casum on Sundays and reorganize my room. I loved the potential of what a new space could create for me. I knew about sacred space then, and I still TOTALLY thrive with spaces that hug me.
Spaces in my home that make it all possible:
- A desk space that makes my mind feel clear. I love to diffuse oils in my office space that support clarity and concentration
- A meditation space dressed with special treasures that connect me to what I love most
- A bathtub that is sanctuary space, with yummy scents and balms that are fun to explore
- A kitchen that is thought out, organized, labeled and clean
Creating sacred space took years to learn, to absorb. Now it is everywhere I am, and I am with it everywhere.
4. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Practice patience, practice kindness, practice i don't know what the hell I am doing or what to do and smile, and breathe.
Practice the storms of ideas and questions and wrong doings and contemplative moments in between, and knowing that it is ALL GOOD. It is all part of the journey. It is all a drop in a very large ocean. Practice makes perfect mama, practice makes perfect.
Practice being a part of something so large that you can't even contemplate its effect, its ripple path, and staying connected to its trajectory even when there is NO SIGN OF RYTHM or sense of it all.
Practice being right where you are, in this moment, connected solely to what is under my feet, no distractions.
Practice makes perfect, practice makes perfect.
5. NOURISH YOUR BODY WISELY
There is a fine balance between TOO MUCH, TOO LITTLE and JUST ENOUGH. Our body needs a specific amount of energy each day. A specific amount of each vitamin, mineral, macro nutrient and micro nutrient.
If we take in too much, we head towards OVERAGE dis-ease process.
If we take in too little, we head towards DEFICIENCY dis-ease process.
How do we find the balance with all of it? Here are a few tricks and tips that have served me:
- Make sure at least 80% of your plate, each time you eat, is made up of 1 ingredient foods. Choose VERY LITTLE intake from processed foods. You should be able to PRONOUNCE the ingredients that you are consuming.
- Know your relationship with different foods. Know what makes you tired, what energizes you, what bloats you, what is EASY to integrate, what is hard to integrate. Choose wisely.
- Make sure that at least ONE MEAL a day is at a table, with a pretty setting, a drink and NO SCREENS on.
- Don't eat when you aren't hungry. Most of us don't even know when we are hungry, because we really don't let ourselves reach that point.
- Take good supplements. Don't waste your money on the cheap stuff. It is not good for you. Reach out to me if you need to know what to be taking.
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SELF CARE WOMAN WARRIOR ROLLER BALL
- 10 Drops of Lavender
- 10 drops of Peace and Calming
- 10 drops of Valor
- 10ML Roller Bottle
- Top up with carrier oil or V6
- Roll on bottom of feet then throw on a pair of yummy, happy socks. Apply often, to support emotions.
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