One of the personal topics that I double click on with my new patients is their exercise picture; what it looks like, compared to what they WANT it to look like. Then the big question....WHY? Why don't they take the time to take the time? Why do they put everyone and everything before themselves, if they know how important movement is? What do they need to do, to change, to be, to have to make the time to take the time? How does movement serve them? How could more movement serve those they serve?
Here are a few pointers to creating the time you need to get your YOU on:
Have a schedule. Schedule YOU time in. I know it sounds silly, but if you don't schedule it, it won't happen. Have an accountability buddy, outside the home, that has not motive but to see you be great. And last but NO WAY LEAST, have a plan, a program to follow, to help you find the solutions you want to realize!
For some reason, in our culture, we think that to be strong equates to being HAPPY AND JOYOUS. That when we feel sadness, or mourning, or loneliness there is a weakness to look at. In my experience, calling my emotions, ANY EMOTIONS, a weakness will only lead me to self-sabotage. And frankly, I am too good for it.
Sometimes I connect so deeply with a sense of sadness that I feel like I am looking into a well that WON'T END if I catch a glimpse. I don't want to look. I don't want to know how deep the deepness goes. I could VERY EASILY go there. DOWN SO LOW, and I fear if I let myself, I won't be able to find my way back.
I will often use an essential oil, a yoga posture, a chant or just some straight up love based music to connect deeply with my feelings.
Feel it all mama. Feel the good, the bad, the ugly. Give yourself permission to REALLY GO THERE and embarrass the TRUTH of what you feel. Not what you are supposed to feel, or told to feel. What you TRULY feel. It won't last forever mama, I promise.
There is a social acceptance in our neck of the woods; a secret agreement among its members that REAL CONNECTION is not safe. That continuous exploration of friendship, listening, a undoubted, unbiased acceptance are all temporary facets of the social season as it sees fit. I don't know how to be in that season, and I don't know how to penetrate its illusion. I am not sure I want to know how. So, in spite of the bubble, I have created a safety zone in my HOME of real, deep, unyielding connection. My HOME is a space where anything goes, anything can be processed and there will be no judgement from any one that enters. At least, if there is judgement, they keep it to themselves.
Spaces in my home that make it all possible:
When I learn a new system, procedure, belief, rule, process.....I go to it. I absorb it. I penetrate it until it becomes part of who I am. Part of my culture of JOY. Then it can come to me, unfold itself and truly be discovered. Creating sacred space took years to learn, to absorb. Now it is everywhere I am, and I am with it everywhere.