Organize the dickens out of your spaces.
Create bins with labels. Make sure that every person that will be in the house has their own sacred space. Have a family meeting and ask your people what they would like pictures of, images of, what smells they would like smell, how they could create a secret space for them.
Organize it so that their space is where all of their things go in the beginning, middle and end of each day.
Organize the pantry and the fridge. If you need to, have your own shelf in the fridge. So that your snacks do not go missing (Moms, you know what I am talking about). For me this looks like bags of celery cucumbers and care carrots, chopped up peppers etc.
Get rid of whatever you DON'T use, get rid of the extra and the waste and the not necessaries. There is no room for them right now.
Write a list, before the wave hits, of the things that you need to do to keep your cool, when things get crazy, because they will get crazy, you know they’re going to get crazy.
How are you going to prepare for the crazy and how are you going to keep your cool? What are the things you need, the people you need, the conversations you need, the tools you need, the smells you need, the food you need? What totally floats your boat when your cup runneth over?
What do you need to make sure that you don’t lose your shit on the people who are closest to you? What are your anchors and rituals? The things that keep you keeping your cool? Your GO TO's. Anchors and Rituals is a really great exercise that I work with when serving my clients, hit me up if you need more information about this.
Create quiet time with your partner.
Sacred time with the person you love most in the world is essential. Even if it looks like going for a walk for 20 minutes at the end of the day. Schedule it in, put it in your phone or your calendar or wherever it is that you use to know what you have to do next.
Create this time as an appointment that happens reoccurring, so that you don’t let it go, you don’t forget about how important it is.
Make it the most important meeting of your week. You need to stay connected to your partner. You need to process and have free time with your person so that you feel like you are a team. Really important.
If you do not have a partner, use this time to create connection with yourself. Maybe set this time aside to daydream and fantasize what it would look like to have a partner in your life.
If you are in a place in your life where you really don’t feel having a partner is necessary, go ahead and use this time to embrace the relationship you have with a power greater than yourself.
Basically the point is to create time for a relationship.
For me it’s my husband. I need to feel connected to him, to feel like I’ve got both feet on the ground in this world. And in order to feel connected I need to make sure that I’m having one on one time with him. For us it looks like pillow talk. At the end of each day we both lie down and we look at each other as our heads are on the pillow and we just free talk. We let it all go. We process our day. In the agreement is that we each listen until the other one is done.
Create this time for yourself. It is essential.
Study your nutrition picture.
Are you consuming too much? Are you not consuming enough? Are you eating foods because you don’t have time to eat what you really want to eat? Are you taking time to take the time to take the time? Click here for three days of study of what you were currently doing with your nutrition picture, with me watching every move. Totally free.
Look at how are you serving your physical body and your nourishment picture.
What needs to change? What do you need to do with your time in order to create these changes? What do you need to ask the people who you live with if you live with people for it in order to support you making changes? Do it, now. You get one body in this life. Take good care of it. There is NO better time for fitness, no better time to get in the best shape of your life.
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At the end of the first six months that our kids are home, what do you want to have had accomplished?
What do you want to be able to say you did during the six months that you are really proud of? Set the pace now. Set the goals now so that you can accomplish them within the next six months.
Connect with each family member and create a goal with them, too.
Have personal goals. You can go to California from New Jersey in a car but if you are going to California from New Jersey and you don’t have a map to get to California you’re going to try the circles and you’re never gonna get to California.
You need to not only know where you’re going but also have a map of how you’re going to get there. So write your goals out. Top three goals. Top three physical, emotional goals, spiritual goals.
And what do you need support with in order to achieve these goals?
Pull out the ol' To Do list.
Look at your list that you’ve been putting off, your list of mama do stuff, and tick off slowly but surely over the next four weeks one thing at a time so that you’re halfway down your list by the time school starts.
Start chipping away at your list that you’re not a complete overwhelm by the time mid September hits.
What can you do this easy? Take the easy stuff off of your list that the big stuff can be chipped away at over a longer period of time. I’m talking about chipping away at short term stuff to get it off your list to clear your head so that you’re a better expression of who you are in the world.
Have a self care plan.
Self care plans include exercise, chiropractic, massage, yoga, Pilates, CrossFit, time to prep in the kitchen, etc. whatever it is that floats your boat and makes you feel like you have the space in the world to be superwoman, plan for it. In my world it looks like getting to my chiropractor regularly, getting to CrossFit every day, walking, stretching, moving, prepping and all of the things in between.
To make me feel like I can function in the world, better yet, not just function but thrive, I need my self care.
You’ve got this. You set the stage for your serenity. And remember, your expectations are proportional to your level of serenity. So what do you expect from yourself? Is it realistic? Set up a plan of action for self-care that is realistic and will not create disappointment in a month from now.
Create a vision board.
Create a vision board for the things that you want to have set up for yourself over the next six months to a year. What do you want to create for yourself and your family?
Vision boards are a huge tool for my clients. You need to see where you want to go before you plan to get there. If you can see it than you can create it. A vision board is the perfect way to create it.
Don’t take yourself so damn seriously.
Have fun with all of it. This is our only time in our lives at this time is going to be the way that it is, so you might as well enjoy it. Think about a jar of peanut butter and when you’re at the end of the jar of peanut butter some people throw it away while there is still a few licks in the jar.
Take your longest finger and clean the jar of your life right now with every nook and cranny that’s in there. Really get in the cracks and the crevices of all of the uniqueness that this time has to offer.
Leave nothing left in that jar. It’s the only time in our lives that we are living in this specific way, with the specific people, with this specific situation. So you might as well freaking enjoy it.